It read, "Look at your pictures - do you see why your single?"
Um, really? You are going to send me grammatically incorrect hate mail on okcupid? ON A DATING SITE? I was blown away. I still am. At first I felt hurt. Then confused. Why would a perfect stranger* want to insult me on the internet? Did he think he was offering a piece of helpful advice? What did he mean look at my pictures? Is he making reference to my fatness? Or my curly hair? Or the fact that I look (and am) vaguely Lebanese?
Normally I would try to let this go. I would try to be the bigger person. I would try to "ignore" him while actually internalizing the message of shame. And then I would feel ashamed. Of my body. Of myself.
Not this time, douchebag.
I responded with the following message:
"If you have nothing better to do than send messages like this, I could ask you the same thing, asshole.
And for the record, I love all those pictures.
Also, fuck you."
And because I DO love all those pictures, here they are.
Don't I look fun and cute and fat and attractive and awesome and, most importantly, LIKE MYSELF?
I thought so.